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I have been married 23 years with two wonderful children, but I have a very volatile marriage. We both got angrier and angrier with each other, yelling, drinking, etc. Then he did something I thought would never happen. He asked for a divorce and said he found someone that made him happy.

I immediately found a divorce support group, bought their book, and started studying my Bible again. Almost instantly, when I started reading God's word, I realized I was not the wife God wanted me to be (Ephesians 5 ). That day I had my last drink. I had already cried days which turned into weeks begging for forgiveness, looking for what I was to do next (Jeremiah 29:11 , Psalm 28:7 , Proverbs 3:5-6 ). I am trying to be the wife God wants me to be. My heart breaks every time he texts her or gets on the computer to talk to her.

I know God is with me (Isaiah 54:5 , Deuteronomy 31:6 ), and I know He has a plan (Jeremiah 29:11 ) and I have to trust in Him (Proverbs 3:5-6 ). It's a constant prayer to help me be patient, wait on the Lord, and don't give up (Galatians 5:9 ). Even if I end up divorced, I have stopped drinking and found the Lord of my life again. I am thankful for that. I don't believe in divorce and I love my husband, and there's little glimpses of hope when I pray and study.

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+4 By Darlene on December 13, 2010 at 5:08 pm
i am also going through a similar mountain in my life and my heart keeps breaking every day I don't know what plan god has for my life but I do know that Jesus will be there
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0 By Darlene on December 13, 2010 at 5:10 pm
would like to enter the conversation on this subject
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+1 By Kristen Clark on February 10, 2011 at 11:42 am
May I suggest a book that helped me in my marriage? I know there are lots out there. This one is by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, titled "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". There are many other resources that can help. Keep looking til you find what God speaks to you through. NewLifeCommunit y.org is also good for support. Laugh Your Way to a Healthy Marriage by Mark Gungor helped us too. There is a personality test to help you get to know each other better. God bless you.
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0 By Alyssa on August 24, 2011 at 7:26 pm
Hi Darlene, I know it's been a while since you wrote this, but thanks for the Jesus light that is in you. It inspired me today. God bless and I am praying for you.
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0 By Lenay on December 30, 2010 at 7:39 am
Hope is knowing a divorce is never the end. Sometimes it is only a separation that leads to missing what was had... on both sides.

Many divorce and re-marry but it will be up to you to become stronger. Hold on to God's hand...your life is His plan.
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+2 By Aydan on January 5, 2011 at 3:40 am
Just keep praying, God will guide you to the right path and will give you the strength and comfort you need. I have currently been in separation for a year now and God has been using this time to transform me into a better person. Just keep praying and meditating on God's word.
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+3 By Robert B on January 5, 2011 at 7:30 am
Hang in there and always remember our great God hates divorce and that is never His plan. Marraige takes two dedicated first to God, then to each other and the world along with the prince of this world hates marriage God's way. You are in my prayers to Him as well as your wayward husband. Anything is possible with Him!
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+1 By steve hays on January 5, 2011 at 9:40 am
I had been married 34 years and didn't feel loved we are both strong church goers and I believe in Jesus, I felt so empty and lonely, even when I pray, my hopes and payers are with you in this time, I am so angry at my wife that I don't know if I will ever find my way back, divorce is an empty lonely feeling of isolation and despair finding a strong group for support is very important. take care
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:19 am
I will keep you and your family lifted in prayer as you are seeking God's direction concerning your marriage. I will keep your precious children lifted in prayer also...as they may not understand what is going on. The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but God comes to give you life and to get it more abundantly!!! God can restore and heal your marriage for His Glory!!!!
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:19 am
Part II of my last comment. Lord, I come lifting up my sister in Christ to you as she is going through a trail in her marriage of 23 years. Lord, I release healing and comfort to her right now in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, give her peace where the enemy is trying to send confusion for it is written in Your Word that You are not the author of confusion.
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:21 am
Part 3 of my comment: Lord, I pray a covering over their two children right now that you would keep them from all hurt, harm, and danger. I pray that their children will have all the things that they need. Let them see what love and forgiveness looks like in their family right now. Lord, I lift up her
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:24 am
Part 4 of my comment: Lord, I lift up her husband to you right now. Heal his heart and mind from the LIES that the enemy is trying to deceive him with that "the grass is greener on the other side" let him see the gift in his dear wife that she is a Proverbs 31 Woman and that she is fearfully and wonderfully made!!!
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0 By made on January 10, 2013 at 3:16 am
i lift mine too up....the enemy will not take charge ijn....amen
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:25 am
Part 5: Lord, let her husband come back to his first love which is You-Jesus Christ. Surround him by men of God who he can pray with and for him. Let him have accountability pray partners who can strengthen him with Your Word when he gets weak or discouraged...keep him on the path which pleases You!!
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+6 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:26 am
Part 6: Remove every person who is a hindrance to this marriage. I pray right now that Your Spirit will speak and minister to his heart. Wherever he may be Lord send a fresh anointing over his life. These blessings I pray and believe that You have already answered this prayer In Jesus Christ Name of Nazareth.
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+2 By Miranda on January 5, 2011 at 10:27 am
Part 7: ’m looking forward to hearing testimonies that you will share soon!!  Be Encouraged…God can do the miraculous!!! THE DEVIL IS ALREADY DEFEATED!!!!!! HALLELUJAH!!! THANK YOU JESUS!!!
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0 By Carol 2 on January 6, 2011 at 10:29 pm
I too am going through a very similar experience, however, we have been married for 25 years, and one of our 3 grown children live at home. We reunited for a short time, and are now seperated again. The pain is deep, but God is in control. I recently read a book by Gary Chapman that I would recommend to you "Hope for the Seperated". It is excellent, and although I have taken no action with regards to it, I will if God directs me to. Stay in the word, and with supportive Christians.
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0 By Suzie Williams on November 11, 2011 at 6:28 am
God is faithful sisters-He will lead you where He wants you to go.He can restore and soften hearts!
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0 By Crissy on December 6, 2011 at 1:35 pm
I am in the same heart breaking situation a friend of mine told me that divorce will change me and then I decided she was right that it would change me for the better. God will use this to get His honor and glory. If nothing else comes from this and our relationship ends in divorce I praise Him that I am closer to Him today than ever before!
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0 By Alyssa on December 7, 2011 at 9:30 pm
So Crissy I was reading your comment and had to ask, why do you think divorce would change you for the better?
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0 By Alyssa on December 7, 2011 at 9:31 pm
I'm curious...
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+2 By Rose-Anne on January 6, 2012 at 5:23 pm
Please hang in there! My husband of 23 years left us 3 months ago to live with another woman.We have 3 teenage boys at home. We both knew Jesus but weren't serving Him with our whole heart. When he left, I was broken, that I turned to God in repentance and forgiveness. I found a book called "Pray Big For Your Marriage" by Will Davis Jr. First, get down on your knees and cry your heart out to God, repent, give Him control, pray without ceasing and read your bible, He wants to heal your marriage!
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+2 By Rose-Anne on January 6, 2012 at 5:39 pm
God created marriage and families, and is 100% for it! It is Satan who deceives peoples hearts. 1 John 5:14-15. God wants to answer you prayer, but your heart has to be right with Him first! Make sure there is NO sin in your life that hinders God's work, and then WAIT ON THE LORD!! Don't put God in a box, give Him time to do what He needs to do, His Way, and in His time. Ask God for patience, peace, hope, faith, perserverance. Get CLOSE to God, get alone in your room and PRAY wholeheartedly!
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0 By Rose-Anne on January 6, 2012 at 5:42 pm
Prayer is a powerful weapon! Miracles happen when we pray! I mean, down-on-your-knees, crying-your-whole-heart out to God, be completely honest with Him, and tell Him to take control of your life, your marriage and your family. He wants control!!
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+1 By Guenther on March 12, 2012 at 5:24 pm
Hello there, I would like to reccomend a ministry that really helped, its Called
Family Foundations International, I know of many marriages that have been Rescued through them.
Blessings!
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0 By Elisah on March 25, 2013 at 5:20 am
Hi there! Its a painful story but divorce isnt the solution to ailing marriages! Be like the Psalmist who looks up to the mountains from where his help shall come from. Look up to God and not the divorce.Let the God of wonders (Psalm 177:14)remove the mountain before you (Zechariah 4:6-7). What God is saying about your marriage is all that matters.Ask Him, surely He shall answer you. Open up to Him and be honest for He knows your deep secrets. May our good God deliver you.
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