Ron Hutchcraft Ministries - Making a Man Feel Safe - #6780

Friday, January 4, 2013

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"Should I call her, Dad?" My then-teenage son used to say that. And like all boys his age, he was unsure of what kind of response he would get from a girl. "Should I call her?" Well, I'll tell you, it seems like just yesterday I was asking that question when I was a teenage boy. I'd stare at the phone for about 45 minutes, wondering if I dared to call. And, man, sometimes no matter how suave, or swave or whatever I tried to be, all of a sudden I'd get on that phone, I'd go, "Hello." Amazing how intimidating a girl could be. There were a couple of girls, though, that I didn't even have to think twice about calling. I just picked up the phone and started talking naturally. Because, you know, it kind of made me feel safe. Same with my son. I actually saw it happening in another generation. It is amazing the power of a woman to make a man feel safe or unsafe.

I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Making a Man Feel Safe."

Now, our word for today from the Word of God comes from Proverbs 31 . I have often talked with my daughter or my wife about that Proverbs 31 woman; the greatest description probably in all the Bible of what a woman can be at her womanliest. Is that a word? Well, it is now. And it says some of these things about her, "She has noble character, she is worth far more than rubies, her children rise up and call her blessed." And then it tells us that her husband is respected at the city gate where he takes his seat among the leaders of the land. What a tremendous description! I mean any woman would like to be worth far more than rubies and have her children call her blessed, and be of noble character.

Well, one of her secrets is given in this chapter; the secret of a woman who has healthy relationships with men, who brings out the best in the men in her life. And it's summed up in these words, Proverbs 31:11 - "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value." I'm going to put that in other words. Her man feels safe with her.

See, men are usually evaluated in our world on the basis of how they perform, their athletic prowess, everybody loves them if they do well, or their macho image, or they're always under control, or they're successful in their career. And most men just continue this performance kind of love right into their relationships with women until a loving, affirming woman lets him know he does not have to perform for her. He does not have to impress her. He's safe with her. He can share his secrets and know they will never be violated. He can be weak around her. He can be frustrated. He can be scared.

Every man needs a woman who will love the little boy inside him. See, the man is very self-assured outside, but so self-conscious on the inside. He doesn't need a woman who's a critic, or a nag, or a predator, or a competitor. Men are very lonely people, because most of their relationships are only on the surface. But God raises up a special breed of women who are able to give a man a harbor; a mother who makes her son feel safe; a wife who makes her husband feel safe; a teacher that makes the boy in her class feel safe; the woman who is not hunting men or chasing men or using men, but who wants to minister acceptance and security to the men in her world. She is, according to Proverbs 31 , "a woman who fears the Lord."

See, she's brought her needs to the Lord. She feels safe. So she can gently, consistently provide the safe harbor that a man so desperately needs. That kind of woman a man can call on any time and she will bring out his best. And, you know, this is the kind of woman that Jesus creates when a woman brings her heart to Him. He makes a woman feel safe. He gives a woman love without strings; never-leave-you love. If He was ever going to leave you, He would have when He was dying on the cross for your sin. Most of those who stuck by Jesus when He was dying were women, because they found in Him a love that a woman's heart longs for. No conditions; no end to it. He can give you supernatural love, transforming love.

If you've never experienced the love of Jesus for yourself, you want to get started in a relationship with Him, would you go to our website and find out how to do that? YoursForLife.net.

When you belong to Jesus, He plants in you His supernatural, transforming love because you know now what it is to be eternally loved by God.